There are countless of people who are afraid of commitment.
“What if I can’t escape?” they wonder.
What if I regret my decision once I am locked in?
The fear is that we will be trapped and not be able to escape the prison of our obligations. This is why so many people avoid committing and following through on a number of goals and dreams. (Wedding vows and new years resolutions are the perfect example.)
Unless you have really committed to something insane or life threatening, the truth is much different then being torturously trapped with no possible escape. If you truly needed to leave something bad enough, you can.
Luckily, in most people’s reality, we are pretty much always free to walk away from any commitment. Even though there may be severe consequences to face like hurt feelings, loss of assets, disappointment, etc. Ultimately, the shackle tied around your ankles is an illusion. It lives in the mind, in the emotions, in fear…not in physical reality.
Consider, perhaps, a completely different perspective to what commitment means.
Commitment as accountability.
Like the cheerleader on the sidelines encouraging you to get back up when you are tired, lost, and ready to give up.
We all too easily give up on our dreams. It’s really fucking hard to stay committed to challenging goals through completion. Many of us have become masters of starting something and stopping half way. We all too easily get distracted by our minds and outside circumstances.
This is why having a public declaration of your commitment can be so powerful. While we have no problem disappointing ourselves, it’s a bit harder to disappoint other people who are rooting and invested in us staying on our path.
It is for this reason why:
people get publicly married in front of their community.
they get coaches
they pay into programs to hold their hand
Staying with it is not easy…but it’s SO worth it. Especially when it comes to your dreams.
What commitment ultimately does is keep that monkey mind from getting lost in the land of distractions and sabotaging your dreams. It will find all sorts of reasons to jump ship. And the truth is we are ultimately free to do so. Yet, choosing to stay on board, honor our word, keep getting back on the horse, and learning through the struggle transforms us into completely different people that have never existed before.Read More
There a dynamic that happens in relationship to people.
We have archetypes that we start to embody,
An Archetypen is like a character we can play. The wizard, the king, the princess, the joker, the shadow darkness, the lovers.
There are many archetypes in humanity. Many of the oracle divinatory tools are based on the interaction of these characters.
Archetypes and states of being are a temporary thing. We move through many archetypes in a day. Some people can flow through many archetypes.
In one day I can embody the lovers as I wake up, the mother as I nurture myself and others, the inner child as I get out in nature and play, the queen as I go off and direct my business, the joker as I create playfulness for my marketing, the high priestess as I interact with my clients, and so on.
These are to be transient states we flow through. Yet the way the ego works is that it gets attached to an identity.
We label ourselves and others with these archetype as if it is a stamp of definition of who we/they are.
This is why so many gurus often fall off of the pedestals that people have placed them in their minds. Gurus are humans with the capasity to embody many archetypes. We simply expect them to be the guru archetype solely. No one is one dimentional. This is why movies with one dimentional characters are not as interesting as more complex characters who are both bad and good.
There are three archetypes in particular that seem to be a pervasive trio in human dynamics.
The villain, the victim, and the hero. These three are made for each other. Anytime there is a victim in the world there is something that is a villain, and something and someone that must save this poor victim.
The problem with this is that they need each other in order to exist.
When one is having an argument, it happens often that people are taking on the villain archetype and placing the other person as the villain.Read More
I come to you today to teach you some mischief!
If you don’t know already…
“Your word is magic”
We have the power to create spells with our words.
We plant ideas in ourselves and others.
Curses, “Damn you!”
Blessings, “you fucking rock!”
swear words for me are just exclamation points. It’s how they are arranged that makes them a blessing of a curse.
I am not always wise with my words.
Somedays, around certain times of the month… I am utterly stupified by them.
having another language is fun because you can say all kinds of blessings,
Zashto si tolkova umen!? ”
and while the receiver may not understand the words, they can pick up on the tone and energy of it…
which is sometimes louder than the words themselves.
I believe that our dear president won tRead More
if we fast forward to your death bed and i asked you, “how was your life?” would you really want to answer,”fine!”
Fine does not cut it in my book.
My life has been fucking epic. I could die tomorrow and be stoked for what I have had the privilege to experience.
It wasn’t that i have had no shit. We all have our battles.
We all have certain privileges and certain disadvantages.
It has not been easy. But it’s been fucking worth it.
it’s possible to get comfortable standing in shit.
at least I’m not…
stop with the at “least i’m not!” It’s keeping you small.
yet there is a time and place for gratitude. and self acceptance and love where you are… Yet don’t get stuck there. Get clear on where you want to be and take the action steps to get there.
Because the struggle to get there is part of what makes your life epic.
so if you’re sitting in a fine luke warm shit pile… and just barring it.. It’s time we get a call.